7 ways a wife injures her husband (without even knowing it):

I seem so busy most of the time such that when I find myself in conflict with my wife I can’t usually focus on the why or what for. It happened too fast. Im in the pit and don’t know what hit me to put me there. 

After a while, you beging to see the patterns but it wasn’t until I read this that things made sense. 

Here are 7 ways a wife injures her husband (without even knowing it):

Put him down in front of other people – Most men will not counter this type of humiliation in public – if ever. They will simply take it – and hurt. If they do eventually address it it will be out of stored up resentment – maybe anger – and it won’t be pretty.

Go behind him when he tries to do something at home – When you always show him how much better you can do things than he can do them, his ego is injured. When he fixes the bed – for example – and you follow behind him showing him the “correct way” immediately after he finishes, he is reminded he doesn’t measure up to your standards.Constantly badger him – If he doesn’t do what you want him to do and you remind him. Again. And, again – never accomplishes what you think it will. In fact, it injures him with the opposite result.

Use the “you always” phrase…excessively – Because, he “always” does. Not really, but when you accuse him that he always does – sadly, it only helps build him into a man that always will.

Hold him responsible for your emotional well-being – Acting as if he’s the reason you feel bad today – and every other day you feel bad – puts undue pressure on him he doesn’t know what to do with. And, you don’t have to tell him. Subtly, just be in a bad mood towards him – without releasing him from guilt. He will take the hint and own the responsibility. He will think it’s his fault even if it’s not. And, he carries the pain.

Complain about what you don’t have or get to do – He has a desire to fix things. He wants to be a provider. Every man does. Some attempt to live it out and some don’t. But, when he’s trying, doing the best he can, yet he feels he isn’t measuring up – he’s crushed. When you are always commenting on what other women have – that you don’t – he carries the blame – even if you’re not intending it to be his.

Don’t appreciate his efforts – Want to injure a man? Refuse to appreciate the things he feels he does well. It could be work, a hobby or a trait, but he feels part of his identity in the things he does. When you don’t find them as “valuable” as he does, his ego is bruised.

The reality is a man’s ego (self-confidence and  sense of worth), is greatly tied to his wife. Just as a woman’s is to her husband. We can be fragile people. Some more than others. And, some seasons more than others. Understanding these issues and addressing them – with a third party if necessary – build healthier, stronger and happier people and marriages.

I understand some women, especially the equally or more wounded women, are going to take offense to this post. I get that. I’m prepared for that – I think. All I can say is that you can’t measure my heart or my intention. As I said, I aim to help. You can’t address what you do not know. If you are guilty of any of these, the response is up to you. If not, well, thanks for reading to this point in the post anyway.

I’m praying this lands on ears that need to hear.

Author: Ron Edmondson

Source: http://www.ronedmondson.com/2014/01/7-ways-a-wife-injures-a-husbandwithout-even-knowing-it.html

A little off topic at face value but definitely something we could all do to improve ourselves by practicing these 10 ways to get things done. 

I can’t take credit for writing this list but I can absolutely tell you that it works.  If you wrote this list, please let me know so I can give proper attribution. 

1) Wake Up Early –
START WORKING ON THINGS BEFORE PEOPLE AND DISTRACTIONS EVEN WAKE UP.

2) Make a list –
WRITE YOUR TASKS DOWN SO YOU HAVE A PLAN OF ACTION THROUGHOUT THE DAY.

3) Limit your time –
YOU TAKE EXACTLY THE AMOUNT OF TIME YOU GIVE YOURSELF TO COMPLETE TASKS. SET A DEADLINE.

4) Treat yourself –
REWARD PROGRESS. TREAT YOURSELF EVERY TIME YOU CHECK ITEMS OFF YOUR LIST.

5) Pick up the pace –
WORK FASTER. TRY TO GET THINGS DONE QUICKER.

6) Limit distractions –
DON’T LEAVE THE TV ON IN THE BACKGROUND. CONCENTRATE ON ONE TASK AT A TIME.

7) Ignore the unnecessary –
TRY TO LIMIT THE TASKS YOU NEED TO DO. IF IT IS NOT NECESSARY, IGNORE IT.

8) Start at the beginning – 
BREAK YOUR TASKS DOWN, AND START WITH THE SIMPLEST, EASIEST STEP YOU CAN THINK OF. 

9) Batch tasks together – 
DO YOU HAVE TO GO TO THE STORE? MIGHT AS WELL PICK UP THE DRY CLEANING ON YOUR WAY BACK.

10) Delegate – 
YOU ONLY HAVE SO MUCH TIME. PAY SOMEONE TO HANDLE TASKS FOR YOU.

From <https://www.haikudeck.com/10-ways-education-presentation-vQmaaXHeQ2>&nbsp;
A powerful agent is the right word. Whenever we come upon one of those intensely right words…the resulting effect is physical as well as spiritual, and electrically prompt.
– Mark Twain (quoted by William Dean Howell in “My Mark Twain”)

What is perfect?

If you have a job that pays what you need or more, a house that is ready to welcome you when you come home, and a lifestyle worthy of praise but have a broken marriage – which one determines your happiness?

What good is a job if your marriage sucks?  What good is a house, clean and presentable or not?  It doesnt matter – none of it!  

I don’t know about you but for me, if the harmony in my marriage relationship is absent – life really sucks. 

Which brings me to ask a question:  

If I died tonight, could I say I gave it everything I had 100% of the time?  Could I say I wanted to give 100% of the time?

What’s really more important:  

  • Doing your nails or doing your spouse?  I know that will come of vulgar to some but for the majority of us it makes perfect sense. 
  • Watching a TV show or spending time discovering your spouse?  
  • Reading books about (pick your entertainment poison) or reading about how to invest in the most important human relationship in the world?